Monday, January 28, 2008

Sign Here

Can you put yourself in the shoes of a nearly 15 year old boy and a nearly 13 year old boy for just a moment? After a two hour meeting with the Director and the Dr. at 21 in came John and Kevin. John was dressed in a suit coat and tie, and Kevin in his fleece jacket. The director sat them down across from her and they had to write out a paper that said basically they wanted the strangers sitting behind them on the couch to be their parents. They gave all they know of themselves to all they know of us, and signed a paper that says they are ready to belong to our family. All I can say is these kids are brave.

Our meeting with the Director was fruitful. We heard a lot about the kids that we will be ruminating on and am sure that we will find some of the information very helpful in the future. Some of the information as a Mama I took with a grain of salt and look forward to seeing God work the details out in. For the most part, I was just happy to be with the boys. Happy to see them, to wink at them, to hug them, to reassure them that we are moving forward and we really are here and we are really going to take them home with us as soon as the courts tell us what our hearts confirm each time we think about them.

Today we got to hear a little more about their lives from their point of view. Kevin really doesn’t seem to remember much that is concrete about his life. He is trying hard to piece things together but you can see there are big gaps. John’s picture is clearer to him, although there are some things he did not know for sure but honestly said, this is what I have been told, but I don’t remember for sure about some of this. The experiences he does recall make it clear to us that he has been abandon on more than one occasion, each time he thinks someone is really going to be there for him and keep him something happens and he ends up back in an orphanage.

I was happy when we got there to see two familiar faces out side shoveling snow. Pictures will be posted. Parents will be pleased. I am thankful we got to see them even though we did not really get to talk. I think that perhaps there is a movement afoot right now to keep us in a private space with our boys, and not mix us with the other kids. There was mention that this stirs things up and it is too difficult to have a quite talk. Not sure but will keep trying to get in there and interact with the other kids too. Maybe that was just a today thing? I was good with it to a degree though because we really did need a space to just be with them and listen and love on them. Leaving today was a bummer because we wanted to just stay and spend time with the kids. We had to scoot b/c G. was going to try to get papers to a notary. Turns out that the notary was closed already so he will go tomorrow and then we will meet him at 11 and sign some papers and then we get to see the kids again at 3. I think we will get to speak to S. tomorrow for a meeting. We are thankful for this she has been super busy with her Mom and while we love G. and are thankful for all his hard work, we miss our S. too!

There was a lot that happened today that we are just thankful for… you could see the boys personalities emerge more, take for example the “family picture” where Kevin could not wait to put his hand up over John’s head and John looking so serious in the picture has no idea till later that his brother was fooling around. However as any great big brother would, he put it to Kevin earlier when they saw the pictures of Rolly Pohlee and when I said they like kids, they will love you boys, John, knowing Kevin is afraid of dogs, says, “Yes like Sausage,” then looks to see Kevin’s reaction! What a slick move! Kevin just leaned on John like it doesn’t matter you will take care of me. And I think he will. It was really just a great day ya’ll. Thank you for praying with us and for us.

We love you!
Jenn

1 comment:

marla said...

I do believe that that is one happy, handsom family. Kevin looks, and sounds like he will bring you laughter, and John looks like he will bring you,much loyalty and stewardship. And both look like they will bring you much love, and many blessings from God.
Love, Mom